Making a list, checking it twice

2 10 2007

I got to visit the lovely San Francisco for the first time this past week. The event was my brother’s wedding. Andy came along and was also in the wedding. He has only met my brother and his now wife a total of three times before this, and one instance was for a funeral. Nevertheless, Jason needed to recruit guys because I think symmetry was important to this wedding. In the end, they still ended up one guy short.

Since I am bestowed with the goodness of wedding planning, I tend to pay a bit more attention to detail. This was also the first wedding that I’ve gotten to participant in since I don’t know when. I also had many people, upon finding out about our engagement, encourage me to take notes. I didn’t expect encouragement necessarily, but I guess – what else do you say?

In the end, I came up with a list, indeed, of things to remember from this wedding:

  • It’s not okay to bash the bridesmaid dresses two days before the wedding. It’s definitely not kosher to do this at the bachelorette party. Sisters especially should not be complaining if they agreed to do so. (This was not me, simply an … observation)
  • Arriving 8 minutes before the ceremony not in your dress may not be the best idea, but things still manage to work out.
  • An impromptu “Trash the Dress” session in a hot tub while wearing a red bridesmaid dress may turn the pool red.
  • Driving a Mustang convertible through a McDonald’s drive thru in wedding gear is awesome. Driving a Mustang convertible on your wedding day is awesome.
  • The shorter the aisle, apparently the slower you walk.
  • A cocktail hour is a fantastic idea (This was the first I had seen, and it played out beautifully)
  • The wedding party dance should be set to faster music.
  • I hope people read (most) of these as tongue-in-cheek. I loved the wedding and spent most of my time having fun, not making a list of things to remember to do. This list consists of things I reflect back on as generally fantastic times.


I feel pretty, oh so pretty

13 09 2007

I ventured out with my MOH this week to David’s Bridal for bridesmaids dresses.

Originally I was leery of going to David’s Bridal at first because it seems like most of what I see are halter tops and strapless, and designs that are all the same. I toyed with the idea of their separates mostly because I love their shades of blue.

Customer service has also been hit or miss at David’s Bridal, whether it is busy or not. I did not want to deal with pushy salespeople, but I wanted some attention to us. I guess I wanted more of a sell than what David’s Bridal can usually provide. I’ll probably post this experience separately.

One gem I found on David’s Bridal site (besides this dress) is a program to “dress your party.” It’s been helpful to see colors next to each other, especially a darker blue dress and a black suit, and also to see bridesmaid dress styles next to what is closest to the style of my dress.

So the actual trip:

The somewhat spacey “wedding consultant” followed us around, grabbing dresses that I thought might be nice. I think I didn’t even really take time to look at about 2 full racks because, well, sometimes you just know.

My MOH modeled the first three, and I wanted to choose each dress. I thought the trip would be disaster because I wouldn’t be able to chose. When she came out styling the one I linked to earlier, I fell in love… again. The first time was through my glowing LCD screen. I even found myself liking a bubble hem.

We found two or three that fit into the category of “it looked pretty online …” Tulle is such a love/hate fabric. There was a fun dress that looked way better than it felt. After this, I felt better about being picky for what I wanted.

My point is – I think I found my bridesmaid dresses!  The fiance approves, the maid of honor approves, so I think I’m good to go! The next challenge is matching a suit style and color with the dark blue that I ultimately chose.


11 09 2007

So when I bought my dress, the woman tried to sell me on this veil, but it was mega-expensive – well, more than I was willing to spend when I could just go to Joann Fabrics, and make one myself! I found out this weekend that my mom called the store a few days after we got the dress and bought me the veil as a surprise! How sweet is that?

It’s been hard to get a lot of planning done in the last few weeks with school starting again (my last semester!) so my updates currently are few:

– I need to start looking for a photographer, stat!

– We officially got our reception site booked! We’ll be at Piney Ridge Resort and Restaurant on the beautiful Whitefish chain of lakes. Before we were debating between Timbermist and Piney Ridge, but for the same price, we could be on the lake!

– Andy may be changing his mind about the tuxes and having the groomsmen get suits that are similar instead. I like this idea.

– My MOH and I are going to look into bridesmaids dresses tonight. For simplicity’s sake (I have a bridesmaid that is touring with a show around the country), I’m going to do David’s Bridal. I can’t decide on doing one color, one dress or choosing a range of blues and having them each get a dress (different or the same) within each of those colors. I think that’d be pretty 🙂  I know there are some brides who say a color and the girls can get a dress from wherever they want, but I don’t know if I’m that risky. Is the shades of blue idea a cool one?

– I’m finishing designing our Save the Dates, sending them to the printer and then I can show them off!

This is disjointed, and I apologize for that.  I’m settling more into classes and new work schedule now so I should be good to post more often.


7 08 2007

I spent some time today trying to come up with a list of wedding-related projects that I’m going to end up doing myself (or with the help of fiance and friends). DIYing partially to save money and partially just to be involved and make the wedding a bit more me-centric. (kidding! to make it more personal and hopefully interesting) This is what I have so far:

  • Save the Dates, in progress
  • Programs
  • Flowers (more or less DIYing)
  • Decorations for ceremony and/or reception
  • Potentially part of the bridesmaid (and other special girls) gifts. I’ve got some thoughts rolling around in my head
  • Favors, if at all possible.
  • Thank You cards, possibly. I would like to design these.
  • Veil, possibly.

Anything else I might be forgetting or that would be easy to DIY? I’m going to have to budget time for all this 🙂

Too close to feel defeated

30 07 2007

I ventured out into the 90+ degree heat today to physically search for a reception site, instead of relying on the internet. I started at a florist/tux rental place to check it out, and it turns out that the owner of the store, whom I went to school with, is getting married in September at a fairly new lodge close by that I had never heard of. It sounded really nice but not quite the caliber or expense of the resorts we had been looking at Inspired, I drove with my mom to check it out.

We came to Whitefish Lodge and Suites, which has an amazing up north, woodsy feel and overlooks a golf course. Their banquet hall seats 300 people, has two dance floors but is otherwise a typical room, nothing special about it. I liked it, and for the first time, it was available for the date I wanted. I also got to see the suites that would be included for the wedding night. I grabbed the information, put a hold on the date and left.

Next we stopped at Deacon’s Lodge, which is mostly golf course, but I thought it’d be a nice location. They seat 100 people at the very most. Scratch that idea.

Last night my parents had told me of a place called Timbermist, which just opened last year I think. I called them up to see if they are available for the date (they are!) and to see what the general set up is like. The prices sound decent, the lady sounded nice and a security officer must be hired for the dance. Wait, what? That seems a bit quirky to me, and ironic considering one of our groomsmen is a police officer and all-star college running back (i.e. this guy is built and can run). Nevertheless, this place entices more than Whitefish, so I’m going to check out the facilities tomorrow.

Tomorrow also includes a preliminary round up of photographer possibilities.

Wedding Party, mostly check; Date, not checked

19 07 2007

I have asked all of my wedding party, save one, to be a part of my special day.  I’ve put it off for awhile because I wanted to get a date set (and it hasn’t happened, although the month has).  I also hoed and hummed about how many people I wanted to have, how many Andy wanted and trying to figure out a number that worked for both of us without upsetting anybody. That was the hope. So far, it seems to be okay. It is thrilling to hear that people are so excited to be in our wedding! I’m glad I didn’t rush out and ask people, because things have changed, even in a month and a half.  By the way, the final count was 5 on each side.

The reason we don’t have a date set is because our entire month changed from June to April. Since I really want an outdoor wedding (in my parent’s backyard), I wanted to do the end of April. However, every site that we have looked at in the area is either completely booked for the entire weekend of April 26 or is ridiculously expensive for our budget.

I hope to get this reception deal nailed down soon. Oh yeah, and begin my dress shopping 🙂